Desert Curmudgeon, an unassuming prophet, as I affectionately call him. He is a writer, a philosopher, an intellectual, a humanitarian, a seeker of truth, and what I consider to be genius in motion.
I am posting this because I think his words need to be heard, and because sometimes we need a little boost, and he gave me one of the most meaningful, heart-warming compliments I think anyone could in regards to my writing. He shared with me that my words inspired his in Warrior Mind.
The compliment:
“For another take on a similar theme, please check out this profound post by Brooke at A Gypsy’s Tale: Masters Of Our Fate. The post you just read would not have materialized without her”
Wait, what? I told our Incurable Dreamer , another one of my blog heroes, it is the equivalent of Einstein telling me I I’m smart…beyond. When I saw that he had credited me with inspiring him to write THAT, it felt pretty much the same as when I saw my name as an author in the Washington Post. Call it ego or a somewhat dysfunctional need for recognition, (both are true), but it made me deliriously happy.
So, please read his words. To say they will make you think is a gross understatement. To say they will inspire you, even more so.
My reaction is below. A lot to take in on a Sunday morning, but in light of all the madness that has happened the past few weeks, perhaps a bit of reflection and perspective will help.
My Response:
Jesus. I don’t even know where to begin here (Jesus, might not be the best place to start). I have never read anything so unbelievably profound and enlightened, yet accessible and pragmatic…and impossible and maddening. Because I agree with him on so many levels, although could never articulate it so eloquently.
More times than not, it is our fears- of rejection, of pain, of being alone- that drive our behavior, our actions, our “ignorance”. And empathy, god, it just seems like this word is almost antiquated. The ideologies that get thrust upon us on such a colossal scale, shoved down our throats, reiterated at such a rate that they not only become our modus operandi, they drive are words and actions in a way that doesn’t even seem to be on a conscious level. We react, we judge, we declare truths based on ideas that we never took the time to question.
Therein lies the tragic flaw, right? Digging deep into our psyches, questioning what is supposed to be the foundation of our existence, the constants, ‘the truths’, is terrifying and painful and an inconvenient distraction from comfort, as mundane and unfulfilling as that comfort might be. I think this makes empathy next to impossible, unless the recipient of it is a person or people who sync up with our established truths.
But I will say this. I don’t believe the search for our tribe, for finding those people we connect with, love and who love us, is necessarily a hindrance to becoming the warriors we inherently are. I actually think it can be what fuels this process. Loving someone completely, accepting and celebrating their flaws, I believe teaches us what empathy truly is. I think it can also ground us in a way that gives us the strength to ‘go to battle’ and the courage to do this, not with traditional weapons, but armed with the capacity to look beyond the tactics of those who seek to inflict pain on others and see the origins of what motivates them to do so. I think if we have experienced love in the truest, purest sense, we can empathize with the fact that everyone, at the end of the day, truly just wants to experience love. Isn’t this the universal thread that unites us? So many are denied this or don’t see that they are worthy of it. Perhaps committing these horrific acts comes from a belief that they will attain love and acceptance with their actions in the name of whomever, whether it is in this realm, or in a world they believe lies beyond.
Please be very, very clear, I am not in anyway justifying these acts. I believe the perpetrators have swallowed someone else’s truth. Regardless of what you believe, causing any other being pain is anything but ignorant, it is the antithesis of humanity, it is the antithesis of love. And yes, I hate them for it. I am human, after all, and I am an empath by nature. But, meeting them with aggression, killing innocent people, dropping bombs on countries and annihilating the very ones who could counter and overcome those who have forgotten their essence, its asinine and clearly ineffective, to say the very least.
So what do we do? We go within, as our author so beautifully concluded. We start with discovering our truth, what makes our hearts full and gives our lives purpose. We treat our tribe with the love, compassion and kindness that we so desperately want to receive in return. And if we don’t get these things in return, we try to understand that they are fighting their own battles.
Most importantly, we continue to fight our own and try like hell to love ourselves in the process. We start there and hope that one day our intentions, our benevolent actions, will reach our fellow budding warriors who have forgotten who they are and why they are here, why we are all here….to embrace or inner warrior, to fight for our truth, and above all, to love.
Holy cow, what a wonderful addendum to my post! I often forget to clarify certain sweeping statements that I make to alert the reader to the fact that I’m only discussing one angle. I’m so incredibly happy that you touched upon the importance of personal connection and love. I didn’t mean to trash that notion, but it might have sounded as if I did. It is indeed what allows us to understand the fundamental need that is so often unfulfilled in those who harbor hateful views and act on them. When I warn against attachment, I’m not suggesting that we eschew one on one connection. Not at all. Attachment only refers to the wrong view born of desperation that sometimes creeps into relationships and makes them more ego-based than love-based. You are love-based. And you are already a warrior of whom I stand in mutual awe.
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I’m so glad I did it justice…seriously had to read yours 3 times to soak it all in!!
I didn’t take it as you trashing on the value of relationships at all; it is inherent in your words/conclusion that you value of love-based connectedness above all. I just am particularly ‘attached’ of late to the importance, at least to me, of finding my people, and celebrating and cherishing the beauty those relationships bring to my life…and my god, the lessons they are teaching me. Sometimes I wonder if I would still be standing without them, and certainly if I would have the courage, even desire, to keep fighting for what I believe in…including love and my belief in it on a romantic level.
As hard as it is for me to accept compliments and admiration most of the time, I accept yours. ‘T’ has told me, and it is obvious, you don’t say things you don’t mean. So, I’ll embrace it and say, thank you. Truly DC, it means the world to me that you extract those opinions of me from my words. I do my best to always speak from a place of truth and authenticity, as well.
Again, you are truly a gift.
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This is one of those times I literally have nothing to add that could even come close to matching the dialogue and meaning in this post and conversation. So, I am going to tap out and simply relish in the fact that two of my friends possess the rare ability to write so masterfully it changes people. Writers everywhere long to string together words and create something as brilliant as this post, but they inevitably fail. You do it with ease. My life will never be the same, Brooke. Ever.
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I’ve been a fan of the Curmudgeon for a while now–he never fails to inspire even when he’s making me laugh!
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Without a doubt! A gift, no question..
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I’m not quite clear on who wrote what in this piece, but I appreciate the reasoning and call to do our inner work and bring more love into the world. Thanks, Brad
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Well, thank you for hanging in there! Desert Curmudgeon wrote the post,’Warrior Mind”, which you can access when you click on it. He wrote his post in response to mine, ‘Masters of our Fate’, and my response to his post was down below. Didn’t make that one easy, but lots of good stuff, regardless. 🙂 Always fun to see your name and comments pop up, Brad!!
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Thanks for the clarification Brooke. I enjoyed DC’s post on Warrior Mind, and appreciate your soulful reflections.
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As far as I’m concerned, the two of you can go back and forth in congratulatory posts all day long. I learn something just by being an observer. But, at the risk of overstepping my (often blurred) bounds, I’d like to add that (a) it is possible, and maybe even necessary, to hate the actions of some (and even the actors) while completely understanding the motives of their actions with a full heart, and (b) it never appeared to me that curmudgeon was dissing our personal, satellitic environs nor that you had assumed that he had. But your elaboration and his clarification were acts of further enlightenment, nonetheless.
What I mean to say, is good job, both of you! ::hands clapping::
Tom follows the Gypsy, now, too. 🙂
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What an amazing compliment, Tom, thank you. I could go on and on with DC and hope someday we can discuss all these things over a beer or coffee or anything, really! Your interpretation of what we were both saying (or at least what I was trying to) is spot on. I agree and can’t help but do ‘(a) and (b), as I stated in my reply to DC, it is obvious that he believes, above all, in the necessity and yearning for (whether on a conscious level or not) connection. Thank you for taking the time to read and offer such thoughtful comments! Love your blog, btw!!
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Thank you, Gypsy! I read and enjoyed the original document, that inspired DC, this morning, and quite enjoyed it. The duties of the day, however, pulled me away before I could thoughtfully respond (alas, work), but I shall. As DC said in response this morning to my reply on his own post, it is for these comment sections that I live.
Or something equally poetic, at least. 😉
Keep up the good work; you have another fan!
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Totally agree! It truly makes me light up when I see a new comment come in…it’s the little things in life, right? 😉 Honored to have a new fan!! You have one, as well!
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Awesome. Thank you!
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